My 1-month work probationary period ended on the 1st November and I passed it: YAY!!
The week prior to it was also my very first crazy busy week at this (now not so new anymore) job. I feel like it taught me a lot and because I think we can learn a lot from other people’s stories and experiences, I would like to share my main takeaways from it in this blog post.
As you know, I like to keep things real here and I am not going to lie..It was quite a rough week and I got home feeling both frustrated and mentally drained in most of the days. Even though I was working for long hours, I still felt like I was lagging behind work. Subsequently, I started to think that perhaps I was not picking things as quickly as I should or that my reasoning was not as sharp as it was expected from me. Basically that negative self-talk – that is nothing else than a bunch of BS – came around. To make things worse, this was also a week of overall bad sleep mainly due to the self-imposed pressure of wanting to perform well during my first financial month end closing in the company… Thankfully I have a partner who gives pep talks like no one and he reminded me that my self-worth is not defined by how “good “or “less good” my days at work might go. He also reminded me to just see the situation as it is, instead of trying to make something of it. I tried to follow his advice and just take one day at a time. I managed to do all my tasks (some with additional support from my manager and others without) on time, everything went well and I felt proud of myself and of how much effort I put into c. All I needed was to give myself some grace and time to get “my feet on the ground” in my new job position.
Once my week reached to an end, I went home and just poured my thoughts down on paper. This is something that never fails to bring me groundedness and mental clarity. Journaling about my first busy period at work helped me to put things in perspective and made me realise these takeaways. So, with no additional digressions, here are my lessons learnt:
- If I want to to do my job well at all times, I need to be able to dettach my sense of self-worth from unexpected issues that arise and from any mistakes I might do. In other words, when things are not going as I had hoped for, I must get focused, not emotional.
- It is never about winning or losing. I am either winning or learning (wise words from Nelson Mandela) and there is a lesson in every struggle.
- I do not have to perceive my days as just “good” or just “bad”. I can have a day with some ups and downs and not
- I need to stop being so self-critical. My harsh inner critic robs me of mental strength and that is the last thing I need when I am faced with a struggle.
- I can’t keep on preaching about self-love and then be so hard on myself.
- If I make a mistake, I should move on from it and find a solution for it. Nobody sees an apology as an useful thing unless I am offering something of value in return. So, when I make a mistake, I should think of a way to fix it. My mental energy should go into finding a solution instead of immediately apologising for it, internalising it and feeling like I am failing at doing my job right.
- While this is certainly a challenging job, it is also one that I am really enjoying doing and one that is sure to make me grow both personally and professionally. And these are all good enough reasons to feel grateful for it. Plus, this exactly the kind of job I wished for so long. Things at work will get hectic and life will get chaotic from time to time and that is ok. I should be grateful for that and just remember when I wanted what I currently have.On that note, these busy days at work really showed me how gratitude is the way to go.
Gratitude will always bring me back to myself. ♥
Funnily enough, after writing all these points down, I realised that you can actually take them to all realms of your life. They really are applicable to all sitautions we may go through in life.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post and would love to know in the comment section below if you would like to share a different lesson/takeaway from a stressful and busy and/or rough time you have had at work? Also, how do you cope with times like that? I am always open and eager to hear about other people’s experiences! 🙂
Morning Pages. A keystone habit that is now part of my daily routine for over 10 months. Every morning I write down my thoughts, worries, to do lists, goals, exciting ideas, monthly/weekly/daily intentions and/or self-realizations. I basically put everything that is swirling around my mind on paper. I find this to be very liberating.
It is so important to create habits that build us up, bring us stillness and put us in a good headspace. Journaling does that for me. It is so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day hustle and bustle and forget what really matters. Living in such a fast paced world makes it easy to lose track of what we want to achieve. And this is where journaling can play a paramount role. If we are consistent with it, it can lead to the important mindset shift from a reactive to a proactive lifestyle. It can help us understand what is the way forward, pull us back to the present moment and give us focus and a sense of groundedness.
Some additional and more detailed reasons why journaling has become such a life-changing habit for me are:
- It helps me to release any pent-up emotions
- It helps me process what is happening in my life and get my mind clear.
- It unlocks my creativity. Oftentimes when I am in the process of writing, solutions to problems and interesting ideas unexpectedly come up.
- It helps me name my fears, which is the first required step to overcome them
- It is a way of cultivating self-compassion and gratitude, increasing self-awareness and of finding within
My morning pages have naturally become part of my morning routine and they are not something that require me to wake up earlier than I would normally would. I usually do my journaling whilst having breakfast and I find that doing it in the morning sets the tone for a positive day. However, I sometimes also like to write before going to bed. There are days where I get home and I feel this urge to write about something that might have happened and that left me feeling excited or overwhelmed. Though dumping always turns out to be a helpful thing and, from my personal experience, I can safely affirm that any time devoted to journaling, whether that is 10 minutes, 1 hour or more – is never time wasted.
That being said, if journaling is not part I challenge you to give it a go. If you are already into journaling, I would love to hear how it is has been helping you.
Additionally, I would also be very curious to know if, just like me, you also put time aside each day to engage in an activity that calms your mind? What are some other positive habits that you have incorporated into your day-to-day life and that have comparable benefits to journaling? You can let me know in the comment section below! 🙂
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As we jump into a new week (and soon into a new month), I would like to leave you here what I wish I was told last night when I was struggling to fall asleep.
You are a whole being. You are not someone who is broken or who needs to be fixed. You are not someone who is not good enough or unworthy. You are whole.
Where you are right now is exactly where you are supposed to be. Even if you everything . Trust the timing of your life and, most importantly, trust yourself.
Put your thinking mind at rest. (Over)thinking just creates problems that would not even exist in first place if only we were present. (Over)thinking just perpetuates resentment, guilt and pain. So, my dear one, take a deep breathe and know you are safe. Know that you are already whole. Know that you are everything you need to be.
Today was just one of the those days. I did not have a great night of sleep nor a great day in general to be honest. I went to bed late last night because I needed to finish a few things for work and then struggled to fall asleep. Even though I still managed to be productive at work, I just kept on dwelling on negative thoughts throughout the day. Nothing specifically bad happen today but I just did not felt scattered and with my mind drawn in several directions at once… and because, we feel what we think, it was pretty much impossible to feel good today, no matter how hard I tried.
I still went to my usual strength training group class at the gym and instead of having felt a boost to my energy and mood levels, I, honestly, just left it feeling more tired and upset. I guess that even the so-called feel–good chemicals usually released by working out have decided to stand me up today. Sick of feeling this way, I decided to just ease things up. On my way home, I bought myself a gorgeous bunch of colourful flowers. What I love about blooms is the fact that, regardless of how positive or negative I may be feeling, they always seem to force me to pay attention to the beauty and splendor of the world around me. Once at home, I grabbed my pen and journal and devoted some time to writing. I felt like I decluttered my mind and freed up some mental space that was very much needed. It seems the effects that journaling has on a restless mind and overall thought process never cease to amaze me. I then had my dinner whilst watching a movie and just called it a night.
..and you know what? Giving myself some grace (instead of just keep pushing myself too hard), proved to be exactly what I needed to bounce back. ♥
Friday (27th July)
I am grateful – oh so grateful – for the last weekend in Dusseldorf and for finally having opportunity to spend time with my best friend. I am grateful for our reunion after 10 months and for realising that, no matter how much time goes by, there are things in life that never change. I am grateful for finally getting to see her first new apartment, for our homemade 3-course dinner out in the balcony on Friday evening and for how much thought and love my bestie put into it. I am grateful for the wine drinking under a gorgeous lunar eclipse and starry sky and for deep conversation about life and the Universe. I am grateful for all the dancing, shameless selfies and moments of pure bliss we shared together.
Saturday (28th July)
I am grateful for our slow Saturday morning. What a scrumptious brunch we had at home, followed by some self-care time that involved hair skin cleansing and moisturization and facial masks. I am grateful for feeling so worriless and at ease around her. I am grateful for the lovely cafe we went to, for the super friendly and ….for the person who invented frothy dairy-free cappuccinos! I am grateful for the time we spent planning our next trip together and for seeing that she is just as excited for it as I am. I am grateful for the time spent exploring Dusseldorf, for the great food we had for dinner at a Japanese restaurant and for the beauty that the city is by night.
Sunday (29th July)
I am grateful to hear that my bestie really enjoyed my visit and to realise that we do have an everlasting bond. I am grateful for our hugged goodbye that got us a little teary-eyed. I am also grateful for having had the opportunity of meeting this other close friend of mine, who has been sick for the last 5 days but is now feeling better. I am grateful for the catch up we had over a delicious vegan brunch that involved matcha pancakes with berries and açai bowls. I am grateful for our Sunday walk by the Rhine river and for the moments of laughter we shared. I am grateful for the perfectly sunny day with a nice breeze and for having had a smooth coach journey back home.
All in all, I am grateful for having people in my life who show me how wonderful it feels to live in the present moment and intentionally. I am grateful for having people in my life who make me forget that life might be a uphill task at times. I am grateful for having people in my life who believe in me, uplift me and see in me the person I want to see too. I am grateful for having amazing friends who make me cherish and treasure life. And, lastly, I am grateful for going to sleep with a smile in my lips and a heart filled with joy. ♥
I have spent the last week in the UK and it felt so good to be back there.
It was a beautiful and bright Sunday on the Kent seaside and, for that reason, my boyfriend and I decided to drive to the beach to watch the sun setting over the vast blue ocean.
It is no secret that Nature is fuel for the soul and I love the power that sunset gazing has over me. It always manages to bring me into the present moment and feel grateful for being alive. There is something so special about the way how the sun seems to melt and drip into the water; something so inexplicably unique about how it gently kisses the ocean good night (…) and it was as if life had stopped whilst we watched the live show in the sky. It was just me, my partner and the glorious spectacle of dancing colours we had in front of us – the true epitome of fleeting beauty. Nothing else seemed to exist or matter.
Isn’t it wonderful how Mother Nature is capable of truly enriching our lives if only we let it? If we force ourselves to stop and shift our focus to appreciating the surrounding natural beauty?
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” –William Arthur
I am grateful for the last weekend in Amsterdam and for the great time spent with two friends that I had not seen in ages. I am grateful for our amazing catch up filled with stories sharing, lots of jokes and laughter. I am grateful for the gorgeous sunset over the IJ river that with a jazz band playing in the background. I am grateful for having had the opportunity of making my friends’ birthday somewhat more special just by being present. I am grateful for the hugs and for the new memories I have built.
I am grateful for our home cooking and for how delicious the dinner turned out; for eating with pleasure rather than worries. I am grateful for our Saturday night in. For ending the evening all cozied up on the coach eating chocolates and watching Gilmore Girls.
I am grateful for waking up to a new and sunny day and biking our way to downtown; for the sushi we have indulged in; for laughing and simply enjoying life.
I am grateful for the Sunday sun-drenched stroll along the canals in Amsterdam and for the photos taken to remind me that great friends are to keep. I am grateful for soaking up the sun whilst being wrapped up in a soft blanket drinking a warm fresh mint tea. Literally a “hug in a cup”. I am grateful for saying goodbye to my friends with a huge smile on my face due to the lovely time we had together. I am grateful for the smooth train journey back home. For being alive and for feeling loved, safe and blessed.
I am grateful for seeing myself healing and for being so at piece with myself. For being in awe with this beautiful world we live in and for feeling so inspired by it.
Lastly, I am grateful for you, you, who are taking time – the most precious thing you have – to read my words. Thank you.Much Love,