It is Friday evening and as we are heading into the weekend, this is a great time to share a short self-reflection post.
A great podcast episode that I was listening earlier today made me have this aha moment. It made me realise that whenever I am not able to fix something in my life, I can get really fixated and obsessed with trying to solve it. I can get so forceful that I end up by losing sleep over it, which in turn makes me feel hopeless and frustrated. Subsequently, I am not able to think it through because my mind is unsettled. I guess that I easily forget that forcing my way through things often repeals the very outcome I want to achieve.
I consider myself as a doer, a go-getter but I acknowledge that does not always work in my favour. When I do something that does not come natural to me (i.e. it is forced), I usually experience some anxiety, stress and overall emotional turmoil. However, when my actions are in natural response to the flow of what is happening around me, I feel calm, still and at ease. I am in alignment with the flow of life, with the flow of the Universe and I feel grateful.
That being said, today’s self-reminder is that it is in the letting go that I can achieve serenity. It is in the letting go that I can heal from inside out.
Wish you all a lovely and relaxed weekend.
I am entirely up to me.
Six simps words that carry a strong message.
I am indeed entirely up to me. I do not want to watch life passing me by. Just over a half year ago, I have made this very important conscious decision of committing to myself (and to my life for that matter). Every morning I choose to stay committed, regardless of how easy or hard it comes to me. I am in such a better place than I was 7 months ago and I feel both very proud and thankful. I have been focused on doing everything I do with greater intention: working, eating, moving my body, meeting and connecting with people, traveling, reading and writing/blogging. I have also been paying closer attention to my surroundings and to the things I do so I can better grasp whether they build me up or drag me down. Numbing out to deliberately avoid dealing with my emotions and feelings is no longer an option for me. Rather than just mindlessly living, I want to be present because life is happening “here and now”.
Today was just one of the those days. I did not have a great night of sleep nor a great day in general to be honest. I went to bed late last night because I needed to finish a few things for work and then struggled to fall asleep. Even though I still managed to be productive at work, I just kept on dwelling on negative thoughts throughout the day. Nothing specifically bad happen today but I just did not felt scattered and with my mind drawn in several directions at once… and because, we feel what we think, it was pretty much impossible to feel good today, no matter how hard I tried.
I still went to my usual strength training group class at the gym and instead of having felt a boost to my energy and mood levels, I, honestly, just left it feeling more tired and upset. I guess that even the so-called feel–good chemicals usually released by working out have decided to stand me up today. Sick of feeling this way, I decided to just ease things up. On my way home, I bought myself a gorgeous bunch of colourful flowers. What I love about blooms is the fact that, regardless of how positive or negative I may be feeling, they always seem to force me to pay attention to the beauty and splendor of the world around me. Once at home, I grabbed my pen and journal and devoted some time to writing. I felt like I decluttered my mind and freed up some mental space that was very much needed. It seems the effects that journaling has on a restless mind and overall thought process never cease to amaze me. I then had my dinner whilst watching a movie and just called it a night.
..and you know what? Giving myself some grace (instead of just keep pushing myself too hard), proved to be exactly what I needed to bounce back. ♥
I think we all agree with the saying that it is insane “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results“. Nevertheless, I would risk saying that most – if not all- of us have done this at some point in our lives. I know that I have done it in the past and, as a matter of fact, I was doing it not so long ago. It takes courage to admit this to ourselves and it takes a lot of will power to break the cycle and put an end to this self-sabotaging behaviour.
I came to realise that the reason why I was me having a self-defeating state of mind.
I have always seen myself as a positive and self-motivated girl, who tries to see the good in every bad situation. However, I must say that maintaining an overall positive mental outlook is something that I have been struggling to do over the past few months.
I want to believe that the root cause of the health issues I am currently going through is my thinking and I mainly originated by my thoughts and been hard to do
The health issues that I am currently facing made me realise what I mentioned earlier in this post: I have been repeatedly doing the same thing and then find myself wondering why am I not getting different results. If I want meaningful changes to happen in my life, then I need to make a daily conscious mental effort to remain positive, and in addition, take actions that support my intentions and goals every single day. Of course that I will encounter challenges and difficulties in doing so but, I now now recognise that my reality is entirely up to me. Because my mind is the mighty force driving my life, I have consciously decided to reframe the self-defeating state of mind that I have been having lately and believe that:
- What I am currently going through is a lesson in disguise
- What I see as a problem is really nothing more than an opportunity to grow and do things differently
- There is no such thing as a mistake or failure, there is only a chance to learn and to start doing things differently
We have freedom to steer our lives in the direction we want and power to choose our thoughts and who we want to be. We have this freedom and choice every single day. How great is that?